Psalm 139:13-16
For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place. When I was woven together in the depths of the earth, your eyes saw my unformed body. All the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be.
In my current reading I was challenged to write a psalm to God telling Him why I am in awe of the way I was made.
My psalm:
I am grateful that I am fearfully and wonderfully made. I appreciate the fact that I was made one of a kind. I'm amazed by how intricate I am and all that a women's body is made to endure. The gift of being able to grow and birth babies is priceless. My greatest treasures were started in my womb. I was able to feel them grow, move, and hiccup. I am a flawless masterpiece! After 32 years I have some added character, but I wear each marking with pride. This is who I am and who I was created to be.
By no means am I my best self in my current state. Otherwise, I probably wouldn't be invested in a book titled "Comfortable in Your Own Skin". The focus is a healthy body image. My weight is my greatest insecurity and has been for many, many years. It fluctuates an uncomfortable 30-50 lbs. In this season I'm at the largest I've ever been, not my favorite.
As I work through this book and reflect, I wonder why my weight. Why is my weight my greatest insecurity? Not much else about my image bothers me.
Real talk. My stomach is far from perfect. I have a 1/4 inch scar that runs from my belly button to my pubic bone. It doesn't bother me. When I was 17 I had to have exploratory surgery because my appendix had ruptured. My appendix happened to be located in the wrong place and the doctors couldn't figure out what was wrong with me. When I started slipping in and out of consciousness they decided they need to open me up and figure out what was going on. Since the appendix had ruptured and filled my stomach cavity with poison, the only option was to leave the incision open to drain. After being an open wound for several days the skin certainly did not come together seamlessly afterwards. The scar is not an insecurity, more like a "war wound". It is a part of my story, my testimony.
My stomach has also been graced with stretch marks. Marks I earned carrying each one of my three treasures. I embrace them!
My once perky breast are no more. After nursing three babies, I guess I can't really expect much else. Thank goodness for amazing bras that work miracles! I was just talking to a girlfriend about not having to wear a bra under my wedding dress and they stayed right where they were supposed to all day. That was then, now the girls need as much support and lift as they can get. So what?! My husband is the only one who sees me without a bra. Unless, you are a lucky parent that catches me at the school during morning drop off on a day we are running late. No apologies.
So why, when my body is far from perfect in so many ways, is my greatest insecurity my weight? Guilt. Why? Not exercising enough? Careless/unhealthy eating? Laziness? Perhaps. More than likely a combination of all three. However, none of which are the root of the guilt.
I gain insane amounts of weight during times of turmoil, conflict, depression, and stress. It is almost guaranteed if I have a stressful confrontation with someone I love I automatically gain five pounds. If I suppress things to avoid more confrontation, another five pounds. The vicious cycle begins.
So where does guilt come in? My weight is a direct reflection of what I have tried to handle on my own, but instead should have handed over to my Father. The scale is a direct reflection of the burden of fear and worry that I try to carry in my own strength, instead of leaving them at the feet of the Lord. Why the heck am I standing on the scale panicked, when I should be on my knees praying?
I can lose the weight, it will be yet another journey. First, I need to get back on my path and walk with the Lord. When will I learn to stop trying to do things in my own power? When I learn that lesson, I bet my weight won't fluctuate like it has.
I will respect and cherish this miraculous gift that has been fearfully and wonderfully made by my Creator.
"Even if your body has been handicapped, it is still a miraculous testimony of God our Creator."
-Dr. Deborah Newman.